Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Another small dilema

Well, we just received a birthday party invitation. Both of my children are thrilled and definitely want to attend the party. The dilema lies in the expected gift. Now, I know the mother of this child doesn't care if we bring a gift or not. She is following my year without buying anything.

With past parties, I would go out with the girls and let them choose something to give to the birthday child. This would lead to the inevitable whining for me to buy them something too. Not that I ever caved to the pressure, but it was still painful! Then of course there is the agonizing decision of how to package the gift. Which pretty bow to pick, which bag....all of this used to take place at the dollar store granted. I could never have paid retail for that crap. So that's a minimum of two store visits.

This is another situation that people often go overboard. I really think the kids would just be happy to be together and play. Of course the cake and ice cream would be a big bonus. I think feeling like the center of attention for a whole day, could be gift enough. If a child could possibly be raised in an environment where he didn't know about birthday gifts, would he still be happy on his birthday without receiving any gifts? I think so. As long as the people in his life make him feel special.

So what am I going to do? I know I will have the kids make cards. That's not frowned upon generally. I have plenty of paintings my kids have done. Hopefully, I can convince them to part with one to use for gift wrap. If not, I'll have them create an original with this intent. We also have a stash of pretty bags and bows that I always save to reuse. I am considering giving some gently used items. I have been saving a "dress up" outfit that no longer fits my girls. I think it will be perfect.

What do you think? Please weigh in on the subject.


  1. Hey Bliss-
    Maybe you already had the party, but you should check out this website:http://thenonconsumeradvocate.wordpress.com/
    It's my favorite- and she recently wrote about hosting a birthday party for almost no money.
    I hope you can use the info...

  2. Sorry- I'm multitasking and that's NEVER a good idea- you're not having a party for your girls, you're talking about buying a gift for a little girl. I was talking about this the other day- I don't have a problem with family and close friends, but I don't know what I'll do for a kid's birthday party. Kids (and sometimes their parents) expect to get nice gifts and don't understand the whole concept of buying used, etc.
    I think the "dress up" outfit sounds nice. Also, if you have used wrapping paper I wrap gifts with cut out pieces of different paper decorating it, it can be over tissue paper or anything plain and looks really artistic (kind of Japanese)